Is it possible for boomers and millennials to coexist? The 10 essential rules that every boomer and millennial need to know
"Go eat your avocado toast."
"We didnt have cell phones when we were growing up."
...neither did I!
Technology has advanced so fast that it's easy to generalize and make comments like the above.
Sentences similar to the above that my peers and I hear on a regular basis are hurtful💔.
It's a negative connotation and with writing this content, I would love for a boomer to read this and come away with a thought of: "Hmm, maybe they are just trying to survive in the world that we live in today, my bad." Or something like that?🤷🏼♀️
It's been a challenge for me to be "on the same page" with "boomers," so I wanted to write this in hope that we can meet in the middle and have a mutual understanding— a mutual understanding that's fun, spunky, and adds a little humor to the chaos both generations face today when it comes to understanding each other.
My efforts 🙏are not to compare boomers to millennials or complain-- ( please don't think I'm complaining!) that is the last thing I would want to do and I'm using writing as my outlet to better navigate how I can prevent, yet express how things have changed so we can all end our day with a :) and no argumentative banter.
"Millennials" hear this all the time. I don't even know if I am considered a millennial but I can tell you that one of the most recent texts I received from a friend who identified me as one, started with an opening sentence: "We love you but you're too millennial."
Ouch! They were not even kidding and didn't have any feedback as to why I was one. I was just trying to connect for social activity but was immediately shut down. It sucks.
Let's add some light to phrases like these as they hurt my feelings and I don't understand what that means.
With that said, here are my top 10 points on how we can meet in the middle between a "boomer" and "millennial" interaction, as we strive for peace and love in our lives.
1. Assets and acquisitions are not as easy as they used to be.
Apartment demand in the second quarter of this year spiked 11% from a year ago. That pushed rents up an average 3% nationally to $1,390 per month, according to RealPage, a real estate software and analytics company. Perhaps this is a trigger for me since I lived in San Francisco, a city with the highest $ rent in the country for 7 years, or maybe not? And that this is stressful due to the fact that a lot of people who don't have family help to buy or own an asset feel the same way.
2. Having a "9 to 5" job does not guarantee safety and security.
Health insurance for example, is harder today. Boomers grew up with small local non-profit hospitals (which worked well for both health and the economy). Now we have huge for-profit (in reality even if they are titled non-profit) hospitals that don't work well but it's too late so all the healthy people get pooled 🏊🏻♂️into a "healthy" category with deductibles from $3,000 to $7,000 dollars and premiums averaging at $300-500/month.
I'm sorry, what's the point of health insurance? Why is it harder? Because 5% of the population spends the most on healthcare and the government is making the young healthy people pay off the debt. It sucks and is hard.
My deductible out of grad school was $7,000, with a monthly premium of $350 a month. I learned what this means after breaking my pinky finger biking in San Fransisco while getting hit by an SUV on my way home from work. Long story short it was $3,000 out of pocket to get a cast and whatnot. That included $100 for saline (which is literally salt + water or Visine if you will, which I always carry now) added to the wound.
Boomers, can you agree health insurance has changed--and not for the better?
3. Resumes are digital now and require omni-levels (omni=multi and complex) of data to support what you have experienced.
We understand that schools and school-brands (ivy leagues, etc) are *really* for-profit business and it no longer matters as much what "school-name" you went to or have on your resume. Education is amazing, but work experience is equal if not better. If you disagree look at what Peter Theil's thoughts are, or Seth Godin's approach on how to be a linchpin.
4. The constant of change has exponentially increased📈, which can result in out-dated bias advice from someone who lived in an era where change happened at a slower pace.
The population has increased, change has like I said increased, and compared to receiving advice from someone from the 1970's, it has become out-dated and affects the economy. Can we agree on this one?
5. Technology and communication expectations have become overwhelming-- there's no room for human error.
Texts, emails, everything is recorded and documented which leaves no room for human error--it's extremely stressful. There are a lot more rules but no room for mistakes. Cameras are on all streets (at least where I live) and the expectations to be perfect are tracked and no different than living in the movie the Truman Show.
Everything is online and multi-channel so you have to do everything right and even if you don't there is some way you can still be screwed over or in trouble.
Has capitalism gotten out of control? Did our founding fathers know what would happen if these resources were "doing what they want" with these exponential changes?
6. Supportive communities are mostly online.
Screen time can be helpful, sometimes more-so than not.
We get a lot of criticism for being on our phone but phones can also be helpful for health promotion and connecting with others to experience a glimpse of care and compassion.
The idea of community is no longer: face to face meet your neighbor. There has been a shift in culture since everyone is distracted online—it's less likely to meet great friends showing up to a bird watching group vs. a dating app or a group chat on twitter.
7. Stress and anxiety is everywhere and no longer exists solely in mental institutions.
People with depression or anxiety used to be locked up in institutions, but now, 1 in 4 people have stress or anxiety and if you don't have one of the two, you're very likely to have one at some point.
There are a lot of factors that go into this so I'm keeping it short. If children Joe and Sarah have anxiety there is nothing wrong, all of their peers have it as well. Let's figure out actionable ways to work through it and use it as a superpower like in the Disney movie Frozen.
8. The phrase: "It's all about who you know," is no longer accurate. It's more so,"It's all about who you are *willing* to know."
Again online communities and willingness to connect and grow can lead to success. I like "It's all about who you are willing to know," as it is more inspiring and less limited.
9. We don't trust some of the political content in the news.
This is more of a generalization (as most of my post is), but it's hard to trust the media without looking into it further. In order to get the facts you need to research a lot of backend information, a lot.
I don't know if this is due to the fact that back in the day you just didn't get the facts, or maybe because there is so much information that you have to weed out so much of it now.
When this is the case we are not trying to be a smart-ass millennial, we have been trained to figure out the facts. I'm not sure exactly what this is a result of but we understand ratings, viewings, advertisements, politics, and how that all factors into content that is broadcasted. We understand that if a large corporation has these as goals for their company, that it does not mean we will believe everything that is said during a 6 pm news snippet.
10. Trust is tiny today. #TTT
• Retirement plan 401k
• Life insurance
• Health insurance
No one really knows if these are worth it and most people are looking for alternative ways to invest their money and time.
If as a millennial I'm trying to pay for an avocado toast, why would I pay for life insurance if i can barely afford rent?
It's hard to trust these systems in place when we watch the people in power get rid of them in a second by signing a bill and !BOOM! your health insurance premium went up $500 and deductible raised to $7,000.
Have I ever had a job with a 401k? No.
It's hard to trust when you have no control of what will actually happen and everyone around you seems to say "times are changing."
Thank you if you took the time to read.xo